Surround yourself with the right people

By Uale Tofilau 17 March 2025, 3:00PM

The people we surround ourselves with have a significant impact on our lives, especially during our teenage years.

They influence our decisions, shape our attitudes, and determine how we approach challenges. While some friends push us toward success, others may lead us down the wrong path. That is why it is crucial to choose friends who encourage personal growth rather than those who hold us back.

Imagine two different teenagers. One is surrounded by friends who are focused on their studies, encourage each other to do well, and celebrate each other’s achievements. These friends remind them of their goals when they get distracted, support them during tough times, and push them to work harder. The other teenager, however, has friends who pressure them into skipping school, wasting time, and engaging in activities that harm their future. Instead of encouragement, there is competition and jealousy. The first teenager is more likely to stay motivated and succeed, while the second may struggle and lose sight of their goals. The difference lies in their choice of friends.

A true friend does not see your success as a threat. Instead, they will celebrate your victories, no matter how big or small. They understand that success is not a competition but a journey where everyone grows at their own pace. On the other hand, toxic people may try to make you feel bad about your progress. They might downplay your achievements, discourage you from working harder, or make you feel guilty for wanting more in life. These are the types of people that can drain your energy and make you doubt yourself.

Surrounding yourself with the right people starts with choosing friends who inspire and motivate you. Being around ambitious and hardworking individuals naturally encourages you to strive for more. When you have friends who are serious about their education and future, you will feel more motivated to do the same. Likewise, avoiding those who constantly pressure you into making bad choices will help you stay on the right path. A good friend will appreciate your efforts and remind you that progress is more important than perfection.

It is also important to be that kind of friend to others. Friendships are not just about what you receive, but also about what you give. Support your friends, celebrate their achievements, and be the kind of person who encourages growth. If your friend is struggling, offer them help instead of making them feel worse. If they succeed, be genuinely happy for them. Positive friendships create an environment where everyone thrives together.

Unfortunately, not all friendships are meant to last. As we grow, we may outgrow certain people, and that is okay. If someone constantly brings negativity into your life, it is important to distance yourself from them. Cutting ties with toxic people is not a sign of selfishness but a step toward self-improvement. Surrounding yourself with the right people does not mean you must have a large group of friends; even a few supportive and trustworthy individuals are enough.

The journey to success and happiness is much easier when you have the right people by your side. Choosing the right friends will not only help you achieve your goals but will also make life more enjoyable. At the end of the day, true friends will always want the best for you. They will push you to be better, remind you of your potential, and never make you feel like you have to compete with them. Success is sweeter when shared with the right people, so choose your circle wisely.

By Uale Tofilau 17 March 2025, 3:00PM
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